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Jan 2020
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114. Wanting Vs. Having or the Pleasure ...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
About this episode

This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.

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