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Jun 2020
23m 12s

137. Defensiveness & Shame

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Join me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes.

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