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Dec 2020
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#212: What to Do When a Child Uses Hurtf...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
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How do you stay calm and coach your child when they are using hurtful words? Erin covers what to do in the moment, as well as 4 step process to use in teaching your child better ways of sharing feelings rather than angry mean words.



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