What is the stronger motivator – reward or punishment? In other words, does hurt more to lose something than it feels good to gain something? We start this episode t with a look at some interesting research into this. (https://source.wustl.edu/2015/05/carrot-or-stick-punishments-may-guide-behavior-more-effectively-than-rewards/)
Some people are just way too ... Show More
Jul 30
Why You Don't See What's Right in Front of You & The Surprising Truth About Sidewalks
Stores and restaurants don't just play music to fill the silence. The tempo, volume, and even the style of music are often carefully chosen because they can quietly influence your behavior and even how much money you spend. Once you know what's happening, you'll start hearing tho ... Show More
50m 20s
Sep 2025
How to Stop Being Too Nice to People
Have you ever found yourself saying yes when you really wanted to say no? In this solo episode, Jake and Damian tackle a challenge many of us face, being “too nice” at the expense of ourselves. They unpack the difference between being nice and being kind, showing why true kindnes ... Show More
27m 31s
Apr 2025
#648: Being “Nice” Is Wrecking Your Confidence
We’re going to talk about the difference, why “being nice” is often a confidence trap, how to detox from people-pleasing, and how to step into strong, gracious, authentic kindness—without losing your softness, your generosity, or your beautiful heart.
This episode is for the ... Show More
26m 8s
Feb 2024
Ep. 468: Why It’s Important to Be Polite, What Form of Gold Star You Appreciate Most, and Aims vs. Goals
We talk about why it’s valuable, not frivolous, to be polite in our everyday interactions. We explore the different types of rewards and recognition that people find most satisfying, such as praise-seekers and trophy-hunters, and we also tackle the distinction between “aims” and ... Show More
33m 7s
Mar 2025
The Hidden Cost of Being Too Nice: Why People-Pleasing is Silently Killing Your Success | Scott Barry Kaufman : 1261
<p>You hold the door open. You say yes when you mean no. You put others first—always. It feels like the right thing to do… but is it costing you more than you realize? </p><p>In this episode, <strong>Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D.—Columbia professor, psychologist, and author of ... Show More
1h 14m
<p>In this episode, I talk about why we become people pleasers and how to break free. I talk about guilt vs. sacrifice and how to know the difference.</p><p>My book, "That's Bold of you" is available on Amazon.</p><p>Instagram: @case.kenny</p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an Ads ... Show More
