What is the stronger motivator – reward or punishment? In other words, does hurt more to lose something than it feels good to gain something? We start this episode t with a look at some interesting research into this. (https://source.wustl.edu/2015/05/carrot-or-stick-punishments-may-guide-behavior-more-effectively-than-rewards/)
Some people are just way too ... Show More
Yesterday
The Surprising Power of Notebooks & What Screens Are Really Doing to Us - SYSK Choice
Can someone's taste in music make them more attractive to you? Apparently, it can. The music people listen to can influence how we perceive their personalities, how compatible we think we might be, and even how romantically interested we are in them. So what does your playlist sa ... Show More
47m 42s
Oct 27
SYSK TRENDING - Why Young People Dread Adulting
There was a time when kids couldn't wait to grow up. Becoming an adult meant freedom, independence, making your own decisions, and finally being in charge of your own life. But something seems to have changed. Today, many young people aren't particularly excited about adulthood. ... Show More
26m 6s
Sep 2025
How to Stop Being Too Nice to People
Have you ever found yourself saying yes when you really wanted to say no? In this solo episode, Jake and Damian tackle a challenge many of us face, being “too nice” at the expense of ourselves. They unpack the difference between being nice and being kind, showing why true kindnes ... Show More
27m 31s
Apr 2025
#648: Being “Nice” Is Wrecking Your Confidence
We’re going to talk about the difference, why “being nice” is often a confidence trap, how to detox from people-pleasing, and how to step into strong, gracious, authentic kindness—without losing your softness, your generosity, or your beautiful heart.
This episode is for the ... Show More
26m 8s
Feb 2024
Ep. 468: Why It’s Important to Be Polite, What Form of Gold Star You Appreciate Most, and Aims vs. Goals
We talk about why it’s valuable, not frivolous, to be polite in our everyday interactions. We explore the different types of rewards and recognition that people find most satisfying, such as praise-seekers and trophy-hunters, and we also tackle the distinction between “aims” and ... Show More
33m 7s
Mar 2025
The Hidden Cost of Being Too Nice: Why People-Pleasing is Silently Killing Your Success | Scott Barry Kaufman : 1261
<p>You hold the door open. You say yes when you mean no. You put others first—always. It feels like the right thing to do… but is it costing you more than you realize? </p><p>In this episode, <strong>Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D.—Columbia professor, psychologist, and author of ... Show More
1h 14m
<p>In this episode, I talk about why we become people pleasers and how to break free. I talk about guilt vs. sacrifice and how to know the difference.</p><p>My book, "That's Bold of you" is available on Amazon.</p><p>Instagram: @case.kenny</p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an Ads ... Show More
