“If they wanted to text you, they would.”
We've heard this advice so many times that it's almost become a rule of modern dating. Don't text first. Match their energy. Never give more than you're getting.
And while there's wisdom in not chasing someone who isn't making an effort, following these rules too rigidly can actually work against you.
In this episode, I challenge the idea that protecting your self-respect means always waiting for the other person to make a move.
Using a listener's question about a man who's great on dates but barely texts in between, I explain why there's a crucial difference between matching someone's effort and showing them the kind of communication you'd like to have.
We also get into something that I think changes the way we approach early dating: What if reaching out first wasn't about getting someone to like you, but about finding out whether they're capable of giving you the relationship you want?
It's a small shift that can change how you handle texting, rejection, vulnerability, and the fear of coming across as desperate.
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