What if the changes you never would have chosen are not only taking something from you—but also revealing something within you?
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This week, I'm sharing a special BONUS series offering the full guided meditations for Healing Through Uncertainty.
Today's practice was inspired by breast cancer survivor Samantha Leahy Harland's reflection on the grief she experienced before surgery.
Sam felt that she was somehow less than perfect because she was no longer entirely healthy. Her body and life were changing in ways she had not chosen.
Over time, however, she began to realize that change did not necessarily have to mean only loss. Alongside the highs and lows, she discovered new perspectives, a deeper understanding of her resilience, and parts of herself that had been neglected for years.
Today's theme is Return.
The goal is not to control your breath, your emotions, or the changes occurring in your life.
The goal is to return gently to what is here.
I am different, and I am still whole.
Today, we use natural-breath awareness to:
notice each breath without counting or controlling it
return to the present when the mind travels into fear
make room for grief without becoming defined by it
release the belief that change has made you less whole
remain open to the strengths and perspectives emerging within you
reconnect with parts of yourself that may have been neglected
This is a practice of presence rather than performance.
The intention is simple:
Let the natural breath bring you back to this moment.
There is no need to breathe more deeply or slowly.
Simply notice:
where you feel the breath most clearly,
how each inhale arrives,
how each exhale leaves,
when your attention wanders,
and how gently you can return.
You might softly repeat:
This breath brings me back to now.
When life feels uncertain, the mind may move quickly between memories of what has changed and fears about what could happen next.
Bringing awareness to the physical sensation of breathing gives attention something immediate and tangible to rest upon.
The purpose is not to ignore symptoms, suppress emotions, or avoid necessary care. It is to recognize the difference between what is happening in this moment and the many possible futures the mind may be trying to carry all at once.
Each time you notice that your attention has wandered and gently return to the breath, you are practicing presence.
Mindfulness of breathing is an ancient contemplative practice.
In the Buddhist tradition, the breath is observed as it naturally occurs. A long breath is known as a long breath. A short breath is known as a short breath.
The practitioner does not need to force the breath into a particular pattern.
The breath becomes a quiet teacher of impermanence: every inhale arises, every exhale passes, and another moment begins.
We learn that returning is always available.
Before surgery, Sam moved through a process of grieving.
She felt that she was no longer entirely healthy and that her life was changing in ways she had not chosen.
Gradually, she began to recognize that change did not necessarily have to mean only loss.
She shared that although she is different and continues to experience highs and lows, she has also discovered:
new perspectives,
a deeper understanding of her resilience,
and parts of herself that had been neglected for years.
This does not erase what was difficult.
It allows grief and discovery to exist side by side.
Today, you'll follow the natural rhythm of your breath:
Settle: Find a position that feels supportive.
Notice: Feel where the breath is most apparent—the nose, chest, ribs, or abdomen.
Allow: Let the breath be short or long, shallow or full.
Release control: There is no need to count, hold, deepen, or regulate it.
Return: When thoughts carry you into the past or future, come back to the next natural breath.
Receive: Allow each breath to remind you that you are here now.
Nothing to change.
Nothing to perfect.
Only this breath—and then the next.
Repeat slowly:
This breath brings me back to now.
I can grieve what has changed.
I can honor who I am becoming.
I can welcome what I am discovering.
Change does not have to mean only loss.
And finally:
I am different, and I am still whole.
Healing does not always mean returning to who you were before.
Sometimes healing means meeting who you are now with tenderness.
You may carry grief for what has changed while also discovering strength, clarity, and forgotten parts of yourself.
One truth does not cancel the other.
You are allowed to grieve.
You are allowed to grow.
You are allowed to be changed without believing that you have become less whole.
Dear Friend,
If life has changed in ways you did not choose, give yourself permission to grieve.
You do not need to rush toward acceptance or search for a lesson before you are ready.
But as you move through this season, remain open to what may also be emerging within you.
A strength you hadn't recognized.
A truth you can no longer ignore.
A part of yourself asking to be remembered.
You are not required to become the person you were before.
You are invited to meet the person you are now—with compassion, curiosity, and love.
With love,
Mary
Before moving into the rest of your day, ask yourself:
What part of me may be waiting to be rediscovered within the life I am living now?
Take one natural breath and repeat:
I am here. I am changing. I am still whole.
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