You are not in love with him. You are in love with who you think he COULD be.
In 2 years. After he heals. After he gets money. After he finally leaves that situation. After he finally chooses you fully.
Girl, that's not love. That's a project. And you are not Bob the Builder.
In this episode, I'm asking you the question that will save you 2 years of your life: Who is he RIGHT NOW? Not in 6 months. Not when he's at his best. Right now. Today. On a random Wednesday.
If the answer is "inconsistent, disrespectful, low effort, confused" - then that's who you're dating. Not his potential.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- Why smart women fall for potential (it's not stupidity, it's empathy)
- The difference between potential and pattern
- 5 signs you are dating potential, not reality
- Why "He has a good heart" is keeping you stuck
- Who is he RIGHT NOW? The 3 question reality check
- How to grieve the fantasy so you can meet reality
- Wholeness looks better than desperation - whole women date proof, not potential
This episode is your permission slip to stop waiting for him to become the man you need and start choosing a man who already IS.
Listen to this before you text him back. Then send it to the friend who keeps saying "but he could be so good."
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