If every date ends with you thinking, "They're nice… but they're not my ex," this episode is for you. One of the biggest reasons people stay emotionally stuck after a breakup is because they unknowingly use their ex as the benchmark for every new person they meet. But comparing someone new to your past doesn't tell you whether they're the right partner—it usually tells you something about where you are in your healing process. In this episode, I walk you through the three-step framework I use with my coaching clients to figure out why your brain keeps making these comparisons, how to know whether you're truly over your ex, and what to focus on instead so you can start dating with clarity rather than constantly looking backward. If you're tired of wondering whether no one will ever measure up to your ex, this episode will help you understand what's actually happening and what to do next.
Reduce desire and attachment to your ex – Ep. 341: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2026/05/18/when-youve-tried-everything-to-get-over-your-ex-and-nothings-worked/
Dating to engaged process - Ep. 162: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/2022/10/03/the-dating-to-engaged-process/