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Jul 13
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Ep. 349 - How to stop romanticizing your...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

After a breakup, it's amazing how quickly your brain can erase everything that wasn't working in the relationship. The arguments, the incompatibilities, the moments you questioned whether they were really right for you suddenly disappear, and all you can think is, "I lost the love of my life." If you've found yourself obsessing over why your ex didn't choose you while barely considering whether you would actually choose them today, this episode will change the way you think about your breakup. I'll walk you through three powerful questions I use with my coaching clients to help them stop idealizing their ex, reconnect with their own standards, and shift from feeling rejected to making intentional choices about the kind of relationship they actually want. And if part of you still hopes your ex comes back, we'll also explore why getting clear on what would need to change before you ever considered reconciliation can completely transform the way you move through heartbreak. This episode is a simple exercise with the power to change how you see your past—and your future.

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