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Jul 26
28m 12s

Moving forward through loss

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
About this episode
After loss, it can feel like there's no movement, as if time stopped on that exact moment of grief or pain, never to move forward again. However, grief, sadness, pain, and suffering do not have to feel like a chasm with no escape. The hurt may not end right away, but the healing can start sooner than you think. 
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