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051- Trauma Bonds Explained: The Cycle o...

Najwa
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Send us Fan Mail What if the reason you couldn't let go wasn't love at all? In this episode, I dive deep into one of the most misunderstood relationship dynamics: trauma bonds. A trauma bond isn't formed because someone loves you deeply. It forms when the person causing your pain also becomes the source of your relief. Over time, your nervous system learns t ... Show More
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Send us Fan MailOne of the most painful experiences in life is being hurt deeply and feeling like the person who hurt you got away with it.In this episode, I talk about the illusion of justice, the truth about karma, and why your healing has nothing to do with someone else’s cons ... Show More
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