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583 - Is It a "Me" Problem or a "We" Pro...

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Today we're tackling another listener question from one of our Supercast subscribers! How do you discern what's a "you" problem versus a problem you should bring up with a partner? We're going to talk about the research on self-disclosure as well as some frameworks and tools to help you tell the difference. If you want a question of yours answered on a futur ... Show More
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