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Jun 11
9m 10s

You've Been Brainwashed! How Manipulator...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Were you brainwashed to stay — and didn't even know it? A cult doesn't need a compound, robes, or a manifesto. All it needs is two people: one who sets the rules and one who lives by them. Dr. Kerry reads your most powerful wake-up moments — from the woman who recognized every cult trait laid down in the first three months of a nine-year relationship, to ... Show More
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