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In today’s episode, we tackle one of the most emotionally charged topics in relationships: narcissism. Whether your spouse has called you a narcissist, or you're wondering if they might be one, this conversation cuts through the confusion and cultural noise.

Kimberly Beam Holmes is joined by Meredith Ball, a Marriage Helper certified coach, to unpack the real meaning of narcissism—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it's become the go-to label in so many hurting relationships.

🎯 We cover:

What the term narcissist actually means (and why most people misuse it)

The danger of self-diagnosing or labeling your spouse

How trauma and attachment wounds shape narcissistic behaviors

Why being called a narcissist doesn’t mean you are one

What to do if your spouse weaponizes this label against you

The powerful role of empathy and acceptance in healing

How to grow—even if your spouse doesn’t change

You’ll also hear insights from clinical research, personal coaching experiences, and real-life stories of hope and transformation. If you’re trying to save your marriage, feeling unfairly labeled, or just want to better understand this complicated topic—this episode is for you.

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