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Jun 4
8m 26s

You Saw the Red Flags and Stayed Anyway....

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Why can you spot every red flag, name every tactic, and still find yourself in another toxic relationship? A commenter recently wrote that she had been raised by three narcissists, married to one, dated another for five years, recently lost a friendship to one, and a former partner just resurfaced. She wrapped up by saying “the law of averages can't explain ... Show More
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