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May 8
35 m

The Fear of Being Seen: Overcoming Shame...

Joe Hudson and Brett Kistler
About this episode
In this episode, Joe and Brett unpack the fear of being seen. They examine why this pattern is so often rooted in shame, how it quietly erodes intimacy and careers, and what to actually do when you find yourself frozen, hiding, or performing. Together, they explore: - The two flavors of fear of being seen: acute avoidance and the universal existential versi ... Show More
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