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Mar 25
28m 16s

You’re Not Just a Hot Mess- You’re Attac...

Jenny Meinen
About this episode

What if the problem isn’t that you’re a hot mess, too much, bad at relationships, or stuck… what if you’ve just been over-identifying with an old version of yourself that keeps reinforcing the narrative?


In this episode, Jenny talks about identity urges: the sneaky moments your brain turns one stressful, emotional, or messy experience into proof of who you are. She breaks down how these identities form, and the three-step formula to think, act, and feel as the more powerful version of yourself.


If you’ve ever thought, ‘this is just how I am’ (but don’t love it), this episode might change the way you see yourself.

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