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ADHD, Fight-or-Flight, and the Productiv...

The Angry Therapist
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What if ADHD isn’t just about focus… but about a nervous system stuck in survival mode? Therapist Jennifer Free explains why many ADHD brains are living in chronic fight-or-flight—and why productivity tools like planners and to-do lists often fail. In this episode, Jennifer shares how her own late ADHD diagnosis in graduate school led her to rethink everyt ... Show More
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