In this episode, Tammy Schamuhn and Tania Johnson tackle one of the most painful moments in parenting: when your child looks at you and says, “I hate you.”
Those words can sting, shock, and even shake your confidence as a parent. But Tammy and Tania explain why this moment is far less about hatred — and far more about big feelings, overwhelmed nervous systems, and developing brains that don’t yet have the skills to say what they truly mean.
You’ll learn what’s actually happening beneath those words, why kids often say this to the people they feel safest with, and how your response in that moment can either escalate the situation or help your child return to regulation.
In this conversation, we cover:
• why “I hate you” is often a sign of emotional overload, not disrespect
• how brain development limits kids’ ability to express complex feelings
• what not to say in the moment
• how to stay calm when you feel hurt or triggered
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• how to repair and reconnect after the storm has passed
• ways to build emotional skills so these explosions happen less often
Tammy and Tania share compassionate, practical strategies that help parents lead with steadiness instead of shame or punishment. You’ll walk away understanding how to hold boundaries while still protecting your connection — even in the hardest moments.
If you’ve ever felt crushed, angry, or unsure what to do after hearing those words, this episode will help you see them differently and respond in a way that strengthens your relationship rather than strains it.
A must-listen for parents raising emotionally healthy, resilient kids.
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