Most men and women enter marriage wildly untrained—and then wonder why connection, intimacy, and trust slowly erode over time. In this powerful and deeply thought-provoking conversation, I sit down with January Donovan, founder of the Woman School and Wholeness Coaching School, to explore why information alone will never change a marriage—and why training is the missing ingredient for lasting connection.
January shares her personal story of trauma, mentorship, and formation, and explains how emotional command, discipline, tonality, and boundaries shape the way men and women show up in relationships. We talk about why modern culture resists discipline, how "freedom" without formation leads to loneliness, and why both men and women must train intentionally if they want marriages that actually get better over time. This episode will challenge the way you think about growth, leadership, and what it really means to live fully alive.
[0:00] Why most people feel unprepared for marriage and parenting
[2:06] Introducing January Donovan and her work training women globally
[3:02] Why information alone never leads to real change
[4:10] January's origin story and the wounds that led her to this work
[6:12] The power of mentorship and intentional formation
[8:33] Growing up with deep insecurity and identity wounds
[10:17] Unprocessed trauma, abortion, and living in quiet desperation
[11:52] How disciplined training reshaped January's life
[13:18] Why women resist the word "discipline"
[14:50] Formation vs. freedom and the danger of untrained choice
[16:07] Emotional command and generational anxiety
[17:37] Why marriage requires the same training as any profession
[19:35] Decision-making, tonality, and communication gaps
[21:12] Why motherhood feels overwhelming without training
[22:02] Studying your spouse as a form of love
[23:12] Larry reflects on minimal marriage prep vs. decades of marriage
[25:10] Why people resist investing in growth
[27:06] Distraction, shallow desires, and information overload
[28:35] Re-educating sexuality and restoring healthy masculinity and femininity
[32:30] Dad Edge Alliance preview call invitation
[36:14] Why training together is the future for men and women
[40:18] Micro-skills that shape daily life and marriage
[43:07] Tonality and how women can build or break men emotionally
[47:02] Proactivity, masculinity, and relational safety
[49:25] Gossip, integrity, and protecting your spouse's reputation
[53:20] Excellence, interior freedom, and choosing your highest good
[59:02] Casting a long-term vision for marriage and legacy
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