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Jan 22
30m 22s

Stop Freezing Up IRL: How to Confidently...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
You see women you want to meet IRL, but you freeze up, and you don’t know what to say. So you beat yourself up for missing another chance. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett shares his What-to-Say Method. You’ll learn three simple, authentic ways to confidently start conversations—no cheesy pickup lines required.

Episode Highlights:

01:40: Why You Freeze Up—and How to Break the Cycle

04:45: How the What-to-Say Method Gets You Out of Your Head

07:45: What to Say at a Coffeeshop09:49: What to Say at a Bar

12:04: What to Say at the Gym

25:03: Still Hesitating? Here’s the Real Reason You’re Not Approaching and How to Fix It

BOOK A FREE CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW HIS 1-ON-1 COACHING CAN HELP YOU APPROACH WOMEN IRL: www.DatingTransformation.com
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