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Sep 2025
30m 23s

#brunchtalk: The Biggest Lies About Fall...

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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With so much focus on the early stages of dating, we're often so focused on the lies we've been told about falling in love that we miss the bigger picture. Join us as we decipher fantasy from reality as we explore the idea of finding the ideal type of partner and what it takes to build an actual relationship. We discuss why the whole concept of "finding love ... Show More
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