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#26 - When Happiness Exposes the Truth i...

Danny Morel and Jen Landesberg
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Season 3 continues… and this one gets uncomfortably honest in the best way.

In our last episode, we talked about “Love Where You Live” and how changing our environment shifted everything. In this episode, we share what happened after we finally got truly happy in our day-to-day life because that happiness started exposing every place in our relationship where we weren’t actually happy.

When you’re living in constant heaviness, everything just feels the same. But once your baseline becomes joy, the misaligned parts of your life start to stand out like a siren. That’s exactly what happened to us.

In this conversation, we dive into:

  • How feeling genuinely happy in our home made the “sticky” parts of our relationship impossible to ignore

  • The recurring loop we kept finding ourselves in: Danny wanting more freedom, Jen craving more connection

  • How our core wounds were triggering each other on repeat (freedom vs. abandonment, pressure vs. not feeling seen)

  • Using Gene Keys to understand why our energies are so opposite and why that “complex” dynamic is actually our greatest teacher

  • The truth about sacred union vs. performance masked as union

  • Why you must move from victim energy into creator energy if you want your relationship to evolve

  • The importance of owning your part, instead of trying to fix or control your partner

  • How to stop looping in the same fights for 10–20 years and actually get to the root cause

We also answer powerful listener questions, including:

  • “How do I let go of the compulsion to control in a relationship because of trauma?”

  • “What do you do when your differences feel too big to get past?”

If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship issues mean it’s time to leave or whether they’re actually calling you deeper into your own healing.....this episode will give you language, perspective, and a whole new way to look at conflict.


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