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Nov 20
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Ep 477: The Hidden Cost of High Performa...

Matthew Codde LCSW
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The Hidden Cost of High Performance: Why Overworking Keeps You Disconnected From Yourself


Are you constantly pushing, striving, and performing — yet still feeling overwhelmed, drained, or on the edge of burnout? In this episode of The Restored Minds Show, licensed therapist Matt Codde, LCSW breaks down how “high performance” can secretly turn into emotional avoidance…and the real cost of living that way.


You’ll learn why overworking becomes a socially praised escape, how emotional suppression impacts your health, and what steps you can take to reconnect with yourself before your body forces you to stop.


If you’re a high-achieving professional, parent, creative, or leader who’s burning the candle at both ends, this episode is a grounded reminder: productivity can’t replace presence. And running from your emotions always catches up.


🧭 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:


✅ How high performance becomes a form of emotional avoidance

✅ The connection between overwork, burnout, and suppressed emotions

✅ Why your body eventually “says no” when you ignore internal signals

✅ Early warning signs your emotional tank is overflowing

✅ How to shift from overworking → authentic alignment

✅ What it really means to take care of yourself internally


🚀 Resources to Support Your Healing:


📥 FREE Recovery Guide

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📖 Get the Book — From Stuck to Unstuck

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⏱️ Suggested Timestamps:


00:00 – When High Performance Becomes Avoidance

01:30 – The Lie of “I Don’t Have Time for Emotions”

03:45 – What Happens When Your Body Finally Says No

05:10 – Burnout, Irritability, and the Emotional Cost of Overwork

07:20 – Why External Validation Can’t Fix Your Internal State

09:15 – The Signs Your Emotional Tank Is Full

11:40 – How to Rebuild Alignment and Emotional Balance


Disclaimer:


This content is for educational purposes only and is not medical or psychological advice. For personalized support, consult a licensed professional.

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