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Nov 12
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S2 Ep145: I’m So Sorry for Loving Myself...

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About this episode
In this intimate London-based episode of LOVERS, Shan sits down with the legendary storyteller and pleasure educator Seema Anand, the woman who transformed shame into sacred power.

From being judged and silenced for her fascination with the Kama Sutra to becoming its most celebrated modern interpreter, Seema shares how self-love became her act of rebellion. Together, we talk about:

✨ Growing up rebelling against libertine attitudes and then discovering Tantra
✨ The link between shame, sensuality, and self-expression
✨ Why women still feel guilt for wanting pleasure
✨ The truth behind the Kama Sutra’s ancient wisdom
✨ How to fall in love with yourself — unapologetically in your sixties or at any age

This episode was inspired by our collaboration jewelry line KAMA, created to remind women to prioritize pleasure — in bed and beyond. Each piece is designed to honor the art of connection and confidence. In collaboration with Surmeyi, our Käma collection celebrates women’s bodies as inseparable from nature, and pleasure as the invisible force balancing the universe. Get your jewelry today:

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Also Seema’s brand new book Speak Easy is now available for preorder
https://www.amazon.in/Speak-Easy-Field-Longing-Intimacy/dp/9361319337

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