Male rape remains one of the most silenced and misunderstood forms of sexual trauma. In this powerful episode of The Aspiring Psychologist Podcast, Dr Marianne Trent speaks with Connor Whiteley, clinical psychology master’s student and host of The Psychology World Podcast, who courageously shares his lived experience of male sexual violence.

Together, they explore the realities of male rape, the consent myths that keep survivors silent, and why understanding shame and recovery is vital for healing. The conversation tackles misconceptions about erections, freezing during assault, and why men often struggle to seek help or report what has happened.

Connor also shares his recovery journey — from denial and panic attacks to seeking specialist trauma therapy — and offers practical advice for survivors, mental-health professionals, and allies.

This episode sheds light on a taboo topic and invites us to build a culture of compassion, safety, and understanding for all survivors of sexual trauma. Whether you’re a psychologist, therapist, trainee, student, or survivor, this conversation will deepen your insight into consent, trauma, and healing.

Content note: We discuss sexual violence in clear, respectful language. Please take care while listening. If you need support, consider contacting SARSAS, SurvivorsUK, Rape Crisis England & Wales, or your local service.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction: Breaking the silence on male rape
01:08 – Safety warning and trigger guidance
02:32 – How common is male sexual violence?
05:00 – Media representation and harmful myths
06:57 – Understanding the freeze response
07:44 – Why “enthusiastic consent” matters
09:15 – Challenging stereotypes and gender myths
11:18 – The truth about erections and consent
13:33 – Therapeutic reflections and global examples
15:42 – Healing, therapy, and coping strategies
19:46 – Integrating trauma into recovery
20:47 – Reporting to police and physical aftercare
21:45 – De-shaming and self-compassion in recovery
24:45 – Final reflections and resources

Links:

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