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Oct 2025
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346. How to avoid settling in your 20s

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Everyone is secretly searching for the perfect relationship, but what if your relationship is just 'good enough'? What if you feel secure, or fine about the person you're with but secretly want more? In today's episode we break down what it means to settle in your 20s, including: 

  • The pressure to be 'coupled up' during your 20s
  • How milestone anxiety creates unfulfilled relationships 
  • What settling looks and feels like 
  • How to tell if it's just relationships anxiety 
  • 3 questions to ask yourself if you're thinking about leaving 

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