EP 518: How to Deal with an Expectation ...

In this heartfelt and relatable session, Christine coaches Mischa—a high-achieving, only child who’s used to getting what she wants and is now navigating a season where nothing seems to be going her way. After leaving a toxic job and experiencing disappointment in love, Mischa feels stuck in what Christine calls an expectation hangover: the emotional crash that comes when reality doesn’t match our hopes.

Together, they explore how unmet desires are not punishments but powerful invitations to grow. Christine helps Mischa see how her childhood pattern of being soothed by “getting what she wanted” now limits her ability to self-soothe and find peace when life doesn’t deliver. This episode invites all of us to stop labeling difficult seasons as problems—and instead recognize them as sacred opportunities to develop resilience, self-worth, and inner stability.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the work but life just isn’t “flowing,” this conversation will help you see that you are in flow—just on a deeper, soul-centered level.

Consider/Ask Yourself

• Are you in a season where it feels like you just can’t get what you want?
• Do you find your worth tied to achievement, attention, or validation?
• When life doesn’t go your way, do you resist or allow yourself to feel the disappointment?
• What might shift if you learned to find safety and love within yourself—no matter what’s happening externally?

Key Insights and A-HAs

• Expectation hangovers aren’t setbacks—they’re realignments.
• True freedom comes when we stop needing things outside us to validate our worth.
• Discomfort is not failure—it’s emotional strength training.
• We repeat childhood patterns until we consciously choose new responses.
• Flow isn’t always about ease; sometimes it’s about deep integration and recalibration.

How to Deepen the Work

• When things don’t go your way, pause and ask: “What is this season teaching me?”
• Sit with disappointment rather than rushing to fix or distract from it.
• Journal about times when you’ve equated love or safety with “getting what you want.”
• Practice self-validation by naming three things you’re proud of—no external approval required.
• Reframe “stuckness” as a recalibration period where your soul is upgrading your inner strength.

Upcoming Program

Emerge 2025 — A 3-Month Integration Journey for Women
Christine’s newest program is for women who already know their patterns but still feel stuck repeating them. Through live coaching, somatic breathwork, and embodiment practices, you’ll integrate what you’ve learned and create sustainable transformation.

• Starts: Spring 2025
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