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Jun 2025
29m 54s

3 Ways Women Sabotage Their Self Love + ...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Let’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth.

If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and grounding reminders you need to return to yourself.

You will learn how to...

  • Stay rooted in self-worth when the world feels like it’s on fire
  • Recognize the difference between reacting and responding
  • Free yourself from the cycles of rushing and regretting

This self-love podcast episode is meant to help you reflect rather than react, slow down instead of rushing, and trust yourself instead of spiraling in regret.

We often think of self-love as something fluffy or indulgent, but the truth is: it’s crucial. It’s the foundation for how we show up in the world, how we treat others, and how we protect our peace. As you’ll hear in this episode, the more you cultivate self-love, the less reactive you become. The more grounded you are, the less likely you are to betray yourself in moments of stress or uncertainty.

Remember: self-love isn’t a luxury—it’s the foundation of personal and collective healing.

If you enjoyed this self-love podcast, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love!

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books:

  1. *The Gift of Self-Love,* an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
  2. *100 Days of Self-Love,* a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

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