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Oct 17
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how to find REAL HAPPINESS | stop burnou...

Tam Kaur
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the happiness trap 💭 — in this podcast, i’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me break free from the constant chase for success and finally understand what real fulfillment feels like. after hitting 100,000 subscribers in 2022 and still feeling empty, i realized i had fallen into the arrival fallacy — the belief that happiness exists in the next achievement. this episode is all about resetting your relationship with success, detoxing from quick dopamine highs, and building daily habits that support long-term peace. from reframing your goals to practicing resilience, gratitude, and guided journaling, this is your reminder that happiness isn’t a destination — it’s a daily choice. let’s reconnect with the present, redefine what it means to feel “enough,” and build a life rooted in meaning, not milestones. ✨

WHAT'S IN THIS PODCAST:
00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Happiness
02:05 Chapter 1: Happiness Myths That Are Keeping You Stuck
09:15 Chapter 2: Mindset Shifts for Happiness
14:34 Chapter 3: Actions to Be Happier
21:19 Conclusion

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