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Oct 15
51m 58s

Why fixing their mood doesn’t fix you

Alyssa Zander
About this episode

Do you ever feel like it’s your job to make your partner (or kids, or parents) feel better when they’re upset? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we explore the codependent pattern of taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions and how it leaves you feeling resentful, anxious, and disconnected from yourself. I share how to shift from fixing their discomfort to creating safety within yourself, and we practice a real-time shadow work and somatic inner child exercise to help you break the cycle.

This episode is for you if:

* You immediately spring into action when your partner seems grumpy.

* You believe making them feel better will give you peace or safety.

* You feel resentful after trying to “fix” their mood.

* You’re ready to learn tools that help you meet your discomfort instead of abandoning yourself.

The real invitation is to ask yourself: is your partner asking you to fix their mood? The belief that “if I make them better, I’ll feel safe” is an old survival strategy, and we can appreciate how it supported you at one point in time but it doesn’t actually work in your adult relationships. In fact, it often leaves you more anxious, frustrated, or resentful. The real alchemy happens when you take all the energy you’d spend on fixing them and pour it into caring for yourself.

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