This is one of the most raw, necessary and eye-opening conversations I’ve had on the show. In a world where parenting is increasingly shared with caregivers, what does it really mean to raise a child with help? Join me and Linsay Kilbane, founder of The Mama Consultancy, as we unravel the unspoken truths behind modern nanny culture.From starting as a young nanny in London to becoming a trusted childcare consultant across the Middle East, Linsay Kilbane’s story is one of empathy, evolution and purpose. After 15 years caring for children in elite households, she founded The Mama Consultancy to help families hire, onboard and partner with nannies respectfully—turning invisible labor into dignified careers and healthier family dynamics.Conversation highlights• The truth about how nanny culture shapes a child’s emotional world• Why most parents fail at onboarding—and what a household manual actually looks like• Trust, training and control: the line every employer must learn to walk• Practical interview and trial tips: what to ask, what to observe, and why references matter• How to protect your child’s attachment while keeping healthy boundaries• Small acts of respect (food, breaks, praise) that transform working relationshipsIf you’re juggling parenthood, work and the guilt of outsourcing care, this episode will give you clarity, practical tools and compassionate perspective. Whether you’re a new parent, an expat navigating hired help, or simply rethinking household dynamics, this conversation will stay with you.Key takeaways💡 Set standards early: a household manual is clarity, not coldness.💬 Respect is reciprocal: a well-treated nanny benefits the whole family.🌱 Train for trust: personality and reliability beat a pretty CV.💖 Quality time matters: rituals and “mummy time” create irreplaceable bonds.⚖️ Outsourcing is strategy: asking for help is smart, not selfish.“Watch at 1.5x speed for a faster, more efficient listen.00:00 The unseen world of nannies01:26 Inside the nanny industry03:23 Why hiring help is emotional05:44 Onboarding and setting expectations09:37 Creating a household manual11:29 How to find the right fit13:25 Red flags and reference checks15:22 Trust and personality over skills16:14 How nanny roles have evolved20:32 Aligning parenting and nanny values25:14 Communication and conflict at home29:27 Why outsourcing isn’t failure32:11 When children bond with nannies36:57 Quality time vs quantity time42:37 Respect, rest, and fair treatment49:55 Appreciation and mindset shift55:32 Masoom’s personal experience and learnings🎙️ About the show:Hosted by Masoom Minawala, The Masoom Minawala Show brings honest, vulnerable conversations with changemakers, creators, and entrepreneurs. Every episode is designed to spark personal growth and meaningful change.About Masoom: Masoom Minawala is a global influencer, entrepreneur, and content creator passionate about empowering women and promoting Indian talent worldwide.With over a decade of experience, Masoom has been featured in Vogue, CNN’s 20 under 40, and HSBC’s list of leading female entrepreneurs worldwide. She’s worked with over 500+ global brands, represented India at the Cannes Film Festival red carpet, and delivered impactful talks.Want to buy my book? It’s a no-filter guide to turning setbacks into success—and building a business that actually works. Get it here: [https://www.amazon.in/Shell-Never-Make-Journey-Dominance/dp/9353458528](https://www.amazon.in/Shell-Never-Make-Journey-Dominance/dp/9353458528)📲 Social Media:My Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/masoomminawala/](https://www.instagram.com/masoomminawala/)My LinkedIn: [https://www.linkedin.com/in/masoomminawala/”](https://www.linkedin.com/in/masoomminawala/”)