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Oct 2
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Secret Ways ‘Nice’ Toxic People Manipula...

Kris Reece
About this episode

Have you ever left a conversation replaying what you coulda, shoulda, woulda said—only to realize later they were trying to manipulate you? 🤯

If you’re tired of always interpreting what someone “really means,” and wish you had a godly way to handle manipulative guilt trips without sounding harsh—or carrying guilt yourself—this episode is for you.

I’ll show you how to:

  • Recognize and shut down subtle guilt-inducing language 👀
  • Apply a simple biblical test that exposes manipulation ⚡
  • Finally stop carrying emotional loads that were never yours to bear 🙌

🔥 What You’ll Learn:

1️⃣ Secret #1: Not Every Cry for Relief Is Your Assignment

  • Relief vs. rehab: the difference between helping and enabling 🚫
  • Galatians 6:2 vs. Galatians 6:5—why not every burden is yours to carry
  • Manipulators drop emotional messes and expect you to clean them up—but that’s not your God-given role

2️⃣ Secret #2: You Are Not the Interpreter of Hints

  • How manipulators use sarcasm, sighs, and guilt-laced hints instead of honest words 😒
  • Jesus’ teaching: “Let your yes be yes and your no be no” (Matthew 5:37)
  • Why refusing to read minds is actually a spiritual boundary

3️⃣ Secret #3: True Peace ≠ People-Pleasing

  • The difference between peacekeeping and biblical peacemaking 🙏
  • Galatians 1:10—living to please God, not people
  • Why constantly soothing others’ discomfort isn’t kindness, it’s codependency

Bonus: The “OK Test”

  • The one-word response that shuts down manipulation without over-explaining
  • Real-life examples:
    • “I guess you don’t love me…” → OK
    • “I’ll just sit by myself…” → OK
    • “That’s fine, I’ll wait outside in the cold…” → OK
  • Why this isn’t cold—it’s biblical maturity and freedom

How to Spot a Narcissist Before They Wreck Your Life
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIpu5qUQ-NE

FREE Narcissist Survival Guide
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/


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