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Do you struggle with feeling responsibility for someone else's happiness? Then let me introduce you to my guest, Dr. Zoe Shaw. Dr. Zoe is a life coach and clinical psychologist who specializes in helping women overcome co-dependency and shame.

In this episode, she helps define the differences between shame and guilt, shares some signs to help identify if you're in a codependent relationship, and offers advice on how to begin to help restore struggling relationships by establishing healthy boundaries.

Please take time to connect with Dr. Zoe through her website, Instagram, or podcast!

Rooting for you,
Jessica

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Taking the First Step
Do you have a hard time accepting God’s love and believing He is good to you and not just good to others?
 
Do you have a hard time forgiving those who hurt you?
 
Do you wrestle with anxiety, racing thoughts, burnout, and feeling like you are at the end of your rope?
 
Do you find yourself being in pain and stuck in the past?
 
Do you constantly question whether it’s God’s voice, the enemy, or your voice?

If you answered yes to any of those questions, it’s time to join me in my Spiritual Growth Mentorship.

Five weeks of your first necessary steps to invite God’s presence into your pain!

It’s the mentorship you need with the accountability you didn’t know you needed.

Learn how God’s love can transform you from hurting to hopeful.
Learn more at >> https://www.jessicahottle.com/heal

Email me at >> jessica@jessicahottle.com
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