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Oct 2
37m 50s

S10 E4 | How To Forgive When the Hurt Wa...

Lysa TerKeurst
About this episode

Forgiveness often feels like an unfair gift we have to give to someone who hurt us the most. But what if it's actually God's prescription for the hurting human heart to heal?

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The dangers and costs of unforgiveness.
  • How to maintain a soft heart heart when you're scared to get hurt again.
  • The difference between forgiveness and reconciliation.
  • What to do when you get triggered again.

A special thank-you to our partner for this season: Convoy of Hope. For over 30 years, Convoy of Hope has helped vulnerable communities around the world — and empowering women and girls is a key part of that mission. Convoy of Hope partners with women so they can start their own businesses to better support themselves and their families. Because when women are empowered, entire communities are transformed. Visit convoy.org/p31 to help empower women and girls today.

Links and Resources We'll Mention in This Episode:

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  • The Therapy & Theology podcast is brought to you by Proverbs 31 Ministries. Proverbs 31 Ministries exists to help women encounter the Truth of God's Word in every season. Learn more here!
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