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Oct 1
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S2 Ep139: How Inner Child Work Can Save ...

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This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”

In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.

🎬 About Doin’ It

You can catch “Doin’ It” in select theaters or pre-order the film on Apple, Amazon, and Fandango to watch it at home as of October 7.

For more information visit doinitmovie.com 


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