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Sep 28
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217. how to stop chasing love & attentio...

Elicia Goguen
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Hi my loves 🦋 In today's episode I dive deep into why we chase love and attention from emotionally unavailable people and how to finally let go and raise our standards in love 🤍

Resources:
How to build a relationship with yourself https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6-k467qd7s
How to feel confident in your relationship https://youtu.be/HxMPt405sEk?si=lW6xoxWnXbT9Uyhd
The Power of Attachment https://amzn.to/46lnyrD
Secure Love https://amzn.to/480YkAa
Jullian on Love Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2qy9p5oXD7keoBQQzk1e1z?si=2f7d976e28804480
Kier Gains https://www.instagram.com/kiergaines?igsh=cDcwM3A0ZG84Zjdk
+ him and his wifes podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3vzcBBFNF7Wm5Ohme3mbt3?si=7ef696ae8b6a4850  
@BreenyLee  Youtuber
The Feminine Frequency Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/4TrLDBn1Q1DP9XP9voFINB?si=4ab2f2474eba453b

Work with me 1:1 https://shop.beacons.ai/theglowupsecrets/504d27dc-4092-4216-bb7a-3ca273e7d082

Link to my digital journal guides https://beacons.ai/theglowupsecrets

My book "the ultimate glow up guide" is available NOW 💗 get it at your local bookstores & online at places like amazon! https://amzn.to/3M4SfGA

My book recommendations can be found here https://amzn.to/4hfP6Sb

Open app (30 days free) https://go.o-p-e-n.com/ELICIA30 20 free credits for classpass! https://classpass.com/refer/MMU78TBR30

My main channel  @eliciagoguen 

All my home, wellness, clothes, self-care faves can be found here https://www.shopltk.com/explore/eliciagoguen/productsets

Link to my microphone, camera & my favourite tech items https://www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-280d1a49/list/2P83PPZGKLP00?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfinfluencer-280d1a49_426RJGVE7WH4HG1KCM9X

The Glow Up Secrets podcast channel https://www.youtube.com/@theglowupsecretspodcast

My audio podcast, instagram, tiktok & pinterest can all be found here: https://eliciagoguen.komi.io

Timestamps:
00:00 no more chasing love
00:59 it happens to the best of us
02:38 understand, release & rebuild
05:07 todays sponsor
06:59 early childhood attachments & blue prints
18:44 forgiveness, letting go & moving on
27:44 raising your standards in love
34:25 who is influencing you in love? resources & reminders

#healingjourney #selflovejourney #traumahealing #podcastsforwomen #relationshipadvice #anxiousattachmentstyle #attractrelationship #feminineenergy #datingtips #selfworth #insecureattachment #insecurities #chasinglove

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