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Sep 24
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Ep. 383 Navigating the NICU with Mary Fa...

HeHe Stewart
About this episode

We’re closing out NICU Awareness Month with a powerful episode all about putting YOU back in the driver’s seat of your baby’s NICU journey. Too often, parents feel sidelined in the chaos of beeping monitors and medical jargon—but you are your baby’s best advocate, and this episode will help you step into that role with confidence.

Today we’re joined by Mary Farrelly, a NICU nurse, doula, and founder of the NICU Translator, who brings her expertise straight to your ears. Together, we unpack what parents can really expect in the NICU, from levels of care and skin-to-skin bonding to navigating feeding challenges and advocating for your baby’s needs.

This conversation isn’t just about surviving the NICU, it’s about finding your power, building trust with your care team, and knowing how to show up for yourself and your baby.

Tune in to learn:

  • What every parent should know about the NICU environment
  • How to advocate for your rights and preferences
  • Why skin-to-skin and bonding time are essential (and how to make sure you get them)
  • How to handle feeding challenges with confidence
  • Practical tools for your NICU birth plan

If you’re a NICU parent—or love someone who is—this episode will leave you feeling informed, supported, and ready to face whatever comes your way.

0:00 Introduction to NICU and Parenting

01:10 Personal Story and Birth Lounge App

02:15 Empowering Prenatal Appointments

05:24 Navigating NICU Emotions and Questions

07:02 Introducing Mary Farrelly and NICU Support

17:47 Understanding NICU Environment and Care

31:43 Parental Rights and Advocacy in NICU

39:45 Advocating for Your NICU Preferences

41:08 The Importance of Parental Self-Care

43:51 Bonding with Your NICU Baby

54:32 Feeding Challenges and Solutions in the NICU

01:03:27 Creating a NICU Birth Plan

01:10:50 Resources and Support for NICU Parents

01:15:54 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Guest Bio:

Mary Farrelly is a certified NICU nurse, doula, and educator who helps bridge the gap between families and the NICU with evidence-based, empowering support. As the founder of The NICU Translator, she creates resources and trainings to help both parents and professionals feel more confident navigating life in—and after—the NICU. Mary is also the creator of the NICU Doula Academy, a certification program that trains doulas and perinatal professionals in trauma-informed, NICU-specific support. Through workshops, birth planning tools, and professional education, Mary is on a mission to create more joy and less trauma in the NICU experience

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BIRTH EDUCATION:

Join The Birth Lounge here for judgment-free childbirth education that prepares you for an informed birth and how to confidently navigate hospital policy to have a trauma-free labor experience!

 

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LINKS MENTIONED:

https://www.thenicutranslator.com

Free NICU Birth Plan Template: https://app.thenicutranslator.com/nicubirthplan

 

Join the NICU Doula Academy waitlist: 

https://www.thenicutranslator.com/nicu-doula-academy

Listen to The NICU Translated Podcast here: https://thenicutranslated.transistor.fm/

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