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Sep 23
18m 37s

Are Your Emotions Getting in the Way of ...

Susie Tomenchok
About this episode

You can have a solid plan. You can know exactly what you want to say. And still, in the moment, emotions take over. Your body tightens, your brain fogs, and suddenly you’re second-guessing everything.

We all get hijacked like this. Even the best negotiators. But the difference is, they know how to notice it and keep moving anyway.

In this episode, I’m talking about what emotional pressure really does to your decision-making, how it shows up when the stakes feel high, and what to do when your brain wants to pull the plug on your plan.

Clarity gives you power. But you can’t have clarity if you’re stuck in your head.

In this episode, I’ll cover:

  • How to spot when emotions are distorting your judgment
  • What to do when your brain wants speed instead of strategy
  • How to stay grounded and influential when everything feels personal

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Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
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