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Sep 21
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The intense pain, longing, and pining ov...

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
About this episode
If you're struggling with the feeling of emptiness after a breakup or loss, is it really about them, or something deeper within you? I'll share my own experiences with heartbreak and loneliness, and why understanding our emotional dependencies might just be the key to healing and building healthier relationships. 
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