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Sep 11
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246. Why Career Success Doesn’t Translat...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

On paper, you look like the total package — successful, capable, and impressive. But the moment you walk into a networking event or business reception, your chest tightens and your mind races. You know you belong there, yet you feel awkward and ill at ease.

In this episode, I unpack two powerful cognitive biases: the Halo Effect and Confirmation Bias, and show how they team up to keep high-achieving professionals stuck in silence, overthinking, and self-doubt. You’ll hear real client stories, practical coaching tools, and simple conversation plays you can use at your very next event.

By the end, you’ll understand why your brain has been tricking you, how to rewrite the loop, and what it takes to finally show up as confidently in the room as you do on paper.

If you’re tired of paying the invisible tax on your reputation, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

  • Why the Halo Effect creates unrealistic pressure to “already” be socially confident.
  • How Confirmation Bias rigs your brain to collect only “proof” that you’re awkward.
  • Simple thought upgrades and conversation openers you can use immediately.

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Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be?

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