Most people dread small talk. But in this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny explain why it’s not about the weather, jobs, or generic questions—it’s about emotional connection. Discover the science of “emotional bids,” a concept from Dr. John Gottman that unlocks deeper conversations and lasting influence.
AJ shares a real story of using this ski ... Show More
Oct 29
How To Read Body Language - Social Intelligence Briefing
Think you can read someone's body language and instantly know what they're thinking? Crossed arms, avoiding eye contact, or looking away during a conversation might seem like obvious signs of disinterest, discomfort, or rejection—but these common body language interpretations can ... Show More
15m 35s
Oct 26
Communication Won't Fix Your Relationship | Yael Schonbrun
Why do you feel misunderstood by the people who know you best? Whether you're arguing with your spouse, struggling to communicate with your partner, or dealing with conflict at work, the problem may not be your communication skills. AJ sits down with psychologist, couples therapi ... Show More
1h 1m
Dec 2024
How to Never Struggle with Small Talk
Small talk can be so awkward.
You’re trying to fill the silence, but the conversation just isn’t clicking. What do you do?
In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to make small talk feel natural, engaging, and even enjoyable. You’ll learn how to ask better questions, keep the convers ... Show More
15m 11s
Oct 2019
Ep51: Surviving Small Talk
<p>Most people dread it. Some people avoid it at all costs. We’ll skip the networking events, duck behind a big display in the store, or avoid eye contact in a public place. What am I talking about? Small talk. It’s something we all have to do, but we almost universally despise. ... Show More
20m 31s
May 2025
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)
What usually holds you back from starting a conversation? Can you remember a time you avoided someone out of fear of saying the wrong thing? Jay sits down with behavioral researcher and bestselling author Vanessa Van Edwards for a powerful conversation that blends science, honest ... Show More
1h 50m