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Jul 2025
22m 42s

The Secret Purpose of Small Talk (and Ho...

THE ART OF CHARM
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Most people dread small talk. But in this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny explain why it’s not about the weather, jobs, or generic questions—it’s about emotional connection. Discover the science of “emotional bids,” a concept from Dr. John Gottman that unlocks deeper conversations and lasting influence. AJ shares a real story of using this ski ... Show More
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