Most people dread small talk. But in this episode of Social Intelligence, AJ and Johnny explain why it’s not about the weather, jobs, or generic questions—it’s about emotional connection. Discover the science of “emotional bids,” a concept from Dr. John Gottman that unlocks deeper conversations and lasting influence.
AJ shares a real story of using this ski ... Show More
Jul 30
The Best Person in the Room Almost Never Gets the Promotion | Social Intelligence Briefing
Most people think promotions go to the person doing the best work. In reality, they often go to the person who looks like they’re already leading the room. AJ and Johnny break down why competence alone can leave high performers overlooked, while confidence, visibility, and strate ... Show More
18m 36s
Jul 27
The Power of Knowing When to Quit | Annie Duke
Most people think success comes from never giving up. But sometimes the smartest decision is knowing when to walk away from the wrong opportunity so you can invest your time, energy, and resources where they matter most. In this episode, Annie Duke explains why quitting isn't the ... Show More
1h 21m
Dec 2024
How to Never Struggle with Small Talk
Small talk can be so awkward.
You’re trying to fill the silence, but the conversation just isn’t clicking. What do you do?
In this episode, I’m sharing 3 ways to make small talk feel natural, engaging, and even enjoyable. You’ll learn how to ask better questions, keep the convers ... Show More
15m 11s
Oct 2019
Ep51: Surviving Small Talk
<p>Most people dread it. Some people avoid it at all costs. We’ll skip the networking events, duck behind a big display in the store, or avoid eye contact in a public place. What am I talking about? Small talk. It’s something we all have to do, but we almost universally despise. ... Show More
20m 31s
May 2025
Vanessa Van Edwards: Stop Overthinking Every Social Interaction! (Use THESE Cues to Be Liked, Respected, and Build Confidence in Every Conversation)
What usually holds you back from starting a conversation? Can you remember a time you avoided someone out of fear of saying the wrong thing? Jay sits down with behavioral researcher and bestselling author Vanessa Van Edwards for a powerful conversation that blends science, honest ... Show More
1h 50m