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Sep 10
43m 56s

Marques Ogden on Life After NFL, Identit...

Alice Draper
About this episode

What happens when the dream ends and you're left with nothing?

In this raw and powerful episode of My Rejection Story, former NFL player turned motivational speaker Marques Ogden shares his incredible journey through identity loss, business collapse, and ultimately, self-reinvention.

At one point, Marques was at the top: running a $25 million construction company, driving luxury cars, and living the life of a successful ex-athlete. But behind the scenes, ego, poor financial decisions, and misplaced trust led to a devastating fall. He lost it all—his home, his cars, and his sense of purpose.

What followed was even harder: a humbling stint as a night-shift custodian, addiction recovery, and facing the painful truth about his role in it all. This episode doesn’t just explore rejection. It unpacks what happens when you stop blaming the world and start taking ownership.

Marques shares openly about grief, addiction, bankruptcy, and the moment he decided to rebuild his life—this time on truth, not illusion. If you've ever asked yourself “What is entrepreneurial ego?” or wondered how to bounce back from failure, this one’s for you.

What We Cover:

  • Life after the NFL: Why 78% of athletes go broke and how Marques found himself spiraling

  • Grief, addiction, and the tattoo that became his wake-up call

  • Building a $25M company from scratch—and the early cracks he ignored

  • Business debt meaning: how undocumented deals led to financial ruin

  • The fine line between confidence and arrogance in entrepreneurship

  • Losing it all: how one client’s handshake deal cost him everything

  • Hitting rock bottom as a custodian—and learning to tell the truth

  • How he became a full-time Marques Ogden speaker and keynote coach

  • His current relationship with external validation and humility

  • How gratitude and discipline helped him reclaim purpose

  • The importance of listening to your team and trusting the right people

  • The role of Marques Ogden’s wife and daughter during his hardest seasons

  • Why rejection is often the best data point we can get


Chapters


00:00 – Intro
02:00 – Life after NFL: Expectation vs reality
04:30 – Rock bottom: Addiction, grief, and survival mode
08:00 – The tattoo incident that changed everything
12:30 – From redemption to arrogance: Building and losing the biz
18:45 – The phone call that ended everything
23:00 – Repossession, foreclosure, and starting over
26:00 – Ego and ignored advice: What Marques would do differently
30:00 – The moment he realized he was a “fake and a phony”
34:00 – The spilled milk story: Rock bottom reenacted
37:00 – Becoming a speaker and rebuilding his reputation
41:00 – The discipline myth: You don’t need to be gifted
43:00 – Gratitude, ego, and redefining success


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