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Jul 2023
36m 31s

4 Ways to Stop Fearing Rejection and Sta...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
When you see an attractive woman you’d love to meet, fear of rejection likely holds you back. “What if she doesn’t like me?,” you think. Or if you want to go for a first-date kiss, the R-word paralyzes you, and you worry, “What if she turns away?” Hello, Friend Zone. In dating, fear of rejection is the Big Bad Wolf. It costs you confidence and romantic success. In today’s episode of the Dating Transformation podcast, dating coach Connell Barrett helps you cure your fear of rejection, so you can confidently approach women, make the right moves on dates, and attract your dream girlfriend, as your best, most authentic self. Listen now, so you can stop fearing rejection and start confidently dating wonderful women.

Quotes

"Every approach is a success; it's either a date or another brick in the cathedral of my character."- Connell Barrett

"Learn to get rejected elegantly, laugh it off, and know you're still enough."- Connell Barrett

"There's nothing wrong with wanting to avoid rejection or not wanting to bother women. It's coming from a good place." - Connell Barrett

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Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website: https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Chapters
00:29 Introduction
03:42 Embracing Self-Worth and Confidence
8:48 Navigating Conflicting Thoughts in Approaching Women
11:53 Transforming Approach Anxiety into Growth Opportunities
15:33 Unveiling the Barriers: Identifying What Stops You
21:24 Rewiring Your Approach Mindset
23:29 Joyful Connections: Redefining Approaching Rewards
30:21 Taking the Leap Despite the Fear of Rejection
33:59 Embracing Your Worth Beyond Acceptance
36:11 Outro
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