This week on Coffee and Cleavage, Shantal, Lynnie, and Gary tackle performance nerves and expectations. Story one: a listener relies on a âblue pillâ for anxiety-related ED and wonders when to tell a new partner. Story two: a boyfriend climaxes most times while his girlfriend almost never doesâshe says sheâs fine, he feels lost. The trio digs into disclosure without killing the vibe, trust vs. secrecy, asking for feedback without pressure, and coaching partners to explore what actually works.