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When Pain Makes You Forget Who You Are (...

JB Copeland
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Betrayal cuts deep. It makes you question your worth, your choices, and sometimes even life itself. But here’s the truth: pain doesn’t mean you’re powerless.

In this episode of Sappy Hour, JB responds to two powerful voicemails from young men who’ve been hurt, let down, and left doubting themselves. Instead of wallowing in self-pity, JB delivers the tough love and real-world guidance needed to shift from despair to dignity.

You’ll learn:

  • Why betrayal feels like identity-shock and how to recover from it

  • The hidden cost of self-betrayal — and how to rebuild self-trust step by step

  • The psychology of learned helplessness (Seligman) and how to break free

  • How scars can become standards, not shame

  • Why the world is neutral — and how your story determines your outcomes

  • Practical steps to stop looping in pain and start creating momentum again

This isn’t about denial. It’s about choosing strength over stagnation, and realizing the world isn’t against you… but it also won’t wait for you.

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