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Father-Son Lessons on Patience, Communic...

Larry Hagner
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In this father-son conversation on the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down once again with my son Ethan as we wrap up our August series on what it really means to grow from boyhood into manhood. This episode digs into the lessons society often fails to teach young men—like emotional regulation, conflict resolution, and the importance of spiritual leadership.

 

We share personal stories—some funny, some raw—about patience, distractions, and the times I’ve missed the mark as a dad. Ethan opens up about his work, his relationship, and how he’s learning to grow into the kind of man the world truly needs. Together, we unpack what fathers and sons alike can do to become intentional leaders in their families, relationships, and communities.

 


 

TIMELINE SUMMARY

[0:00] - Welcome to the Dad Edge movement and today’s theme

[2:02] - What kind of men the world needs (and what’s missing today)

[3:33] - Morning routines and health habits for energy and focus

[4:06] - Ethan’s take on toxic behaviors and emotional regulation

[6:13] - Why patience is a skill every man must learn

[9:08] - The dangers of unchecked anger and modeling healthy behavior

[10:43] - Spiritual leadership: why families need fathers of faith

[12:55] - Technology distractions and missing moments with family

[14:13] - Ethan’s memory of a walk interrupted by a work call

[16:04] - Why presence matters more than productivity for kids

[17:11] - Emotional IQ and learning to communicate feelings clearly

[19:34] - The “blame game” in conflict and what’s really being argued

[21:29] - Why stating what you do want changes arguments instantly

[23:51] - Communication lessons that transform relationships

[26:14] - Humor, family dogs, and how laughter shapes connection

[28:26] - Ethan’s approach to relationship check-ins with his girlfriend

[32:10] - Why small gestures (videos, letters, notes) keep love alive

[34:09] - Preventative maintenance in relationships—like car care

[35:41] - Ethan’s life transitions: work, school, and EMT training

[37:00] - Looking back: how podcasting captured growth in real time

[39:22] - Lessons learned from starting with imperfect beginnings

[41:25] - Tangents, laughter, and building stronger bonds through honesty

[42:29] - Resources, free tools, and a final call to lead with intention

 


 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

1. Patience Is a Choice, Not a Trait

Life tests your patience daily—but choosing to pause, breathe, and respond with calm sets the tone for your family and your relationships.

2. Spiritual Leadership Matters

A father who prays, leads spiritually, and models faith gives his family the foundation they need to thrive—not perfection, but presence.

3. Distractions Cost Connection

Every time work or technology interrupts family time, the message sent is “this is more important than you.” Presence is the true gift kids crave.

4. Communication Is Preventative Maintenance

Arguments often circle around what we don’t want. Learning to clearly state what we do want transforms conflict into connection.

5. Relationships Grow Through Small, Intentional Acts

From handwritten letters to a quick morning video, little efforts create lasting connection. Relationships require maintenance—just like everything worth keeping.

 

 


 

LINKS & RESOURCES

 

 


 

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