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Aug 22
43m 11s

The Keys to a Thriving Marriage Built wi...

Larry Hagner
About this episode

In this special episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I’m joined once again by my wife, Jessica Hagner, for another honest and heartfelt conversation about marriage, parenting, and family life. Together, we pull back the curtain on how we’ve learned to operate as a team, resolve conflict with respect, and create a family culture where our kids feel seen, loved, and guided.

 

We discuss the importance of friendship in marriage, the challenges of raising four boys with different personalities, and how grace and intentionality shape our home. Jessica also shares her perspective on what keeps our relationship strong after more than two decades together, even when life gets messy. If you’re looking for practical tools and encouragement for your marriage and parenting, this episode delivers a mix of wisdom, laughter, and real-life stories.

 


 

TIMELINE SUMMARY

[0:00] - Why conversations like this matter for marriage and parenting

[2:10] - Building a marriage on respect and friendship

[5:18] - How we handle conflict without tearing each other down

[9:02] - Parenting four boys with different needs and personalities

[13:37] - Why consistency matters in discipline and guidance

[17:25] - The role of grace in creating a safe family environment

[21:48] - Keeping our marriage strong in the middle of chaos

[26:13] - Making intentional time for connection as a couple

[30:05] - How we show each child that they are seen and valued

[34:40] - Teaching respect by modeling it in our marriage

[39:12] - The balance between structure and flexibility in parenting

[43:55] - Why shared values anchor our family through challenges

[48:21] - Leading our family spiritually and emotionally

[52:18] - How laughter and friendship keep us connected

[56:44] - Final reflections on creating a family rooted in love and respect

 


 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

1. Respect Is the Glue in Marriage

Every successful partnership is built on mutual respect. It sets the tone for conflict resolution, parenting, and the overall health of the relationship.

2. Conflict Doesn’t Have to Divide

Handled well, disagreements can actually strengthen connection. The goal isn’t to win—it’s to work together with empathy and understanding.

3. Parent as a United Team

Kids feel safest when parents operate from the same playbook. Presenting a united front creates stability and clarity at home.

4. Grace Creates Space for Growth

Rules matter, but grace ensures your home is a safe place to learn, fail, and try again. It’s what makes discipline effective without resentment.

5. Friendship Keeps Love Alive

Romance ebbs and flows, but friendship sustains the relationship. Laughter, fun, and shared companionship are what carry you through every season.

 

 


 

LINKS & RESOURCES

 

  • Download the 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner: https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions

  • Dad Edge Podcast Website: https://www.thedadedge.com

  • Join The Alliance: https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance

  • Listen to More Episodes: https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast

  • Tools & Resources: https://www.thedadedge.com/tools

 

 


 

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