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Aug 24
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147 - How to End Arguments Before They B...

Alastair Duhs
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For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts.

With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prevent regretful blow-ups.

-Trying to “win” an argument often sacrifices what truly matters: your connection and mutual respect.

-Shifting your mindset from defending your position to understanding your partner creates space for healing and collaboration.

-The “Magic Six Hours” technique helps couples intentionally invest in their relationship, building trust before conflict arises.

-Conflict is inevitable—but how you handle it determines whether it brings you closer or drives you apart.

-Support is available if you feel stuck—you're not alone, and real change is possible.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

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