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Aug 21
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330 | From Over-Attachment to Avoidance:...

Dr. Brenna Hicks
About this episode

In this episode, I respond to a listener question that highlights two very different—but equally important—play therapy dynamics. One child clings to the therapist immediately, handcuffing herself to me in the first session and refusing to leave in the second. Another child dives deep into intense work right away, only to recoil and resist in subsequent sessions.

I unpack both situations and explain how these behaviors reveal underlying attachment needs, relational fractures, and the natural ebb and flow of the CCPT process. From recognizing maladaptive coping strategies, to understanding why children sometimes bypass initiation and resistance phases, I share how to stay grounded, reflect feelings, and trust the therapeutic process. Whether a child is overly eager or pushing us away, both are doing important work—and both scenarios remind us why consistency and adherence to the model matter so much.

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Ask Me Questions: Call ‪(813) 812-5525‬, or email: brenna@thekidcounselor.com
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Common References:
Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley.
VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press.
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948
Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.

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